- Eight Ways You Can Help Your Elderly Parents BEFORE Crisis
Here are eight ways that you can be proactive and take action now to help de-clutter your parents’ home. Do this now for their sake—and for your own. I can tell you from personal experience: you do not want to have to do this in “crisis mode.”
- Letting Go of Your Possessions Is Harder Than You Think
In the last post, I included a list of some reasons why people have a hard time letting go of their stuff. I want to continue the conversation with a couple of important suggestions from my experience as both an appraiser of residential contents and an estate liquidator.
- ’Til Death Do Us Part
Most of us enjoy hearing those words during a wedding ceremony as the new couple floats in bliss, envisioning themselves by each other’s side until death. From my perspective, however, I see people who have a very passionate relationship with their material possessions—sometimes more so than with each other! If I didn’t know any better, I would say they feel confident that they can take their possessions with them when they leave this earth.
- Conversation Starters for You and Your Parents
It is never easy to talk with your parents about future issues. Here are some conversation starters that will make it more comfortable for you and your parents:
- King Solomon’s Approach: Will It Work for Dividing Estate Contents?
King Solomon was known for his wisdom and ability to make sound decisions. The most famous incident happened when two women came to him with a baby each woman claimed as her own. Solomon’s response was literally to divide the baby so that each woman could have half. This decision did not seem to bother the first woman, but the second woman begged the King to give the baby to the first woman, so the baby could live. Solomon then knew the second woman was the real mother and granted her the child.
- The Solution to the Irony of Heirlooms
We spend a lifetime collecting and caring for heirlooms, yet we rarely take the time to make a plan for them once we pass away. We allow our children to fight over them, instead of making wish lists and talking with them about their wishes.
- The Irony of Heirlooms
You can count on Murphy’s Law when dealing with heirlooms and dividing estate contents—something almost always goes wrong! I’ve had a front seat for nearly 20 years and seen more than my share of serious feuds, estrangements, the “entitlement mentality,” and the rapid gathering of vultures and other green-eyed creatures. Sibling rivalries, as well as tensions and emotions, are at an all-time high. The executor is generally stuck in the middle, reluctant to ruffle any feathers.
- A Spontaneous Invitation Changed My Outlook on Life
It was a spontaneous invitation from my mother to attend their senior holiday dance and party. I was visiting from out of state and obliged her request, but I wondered how much fun it would really be with everyone so advanced in years.
- What to Notice About Your Parents’ Aging
Many of us will gather with close family at Christmas and/or New Year’s. You may want to observe your parents, or other close relatives, and note any new signs of the aging process.
Some of these signs, if occurring infrequently, are no cause for panic; however, they could mean that your parents need to have someone check on them daily or consider assisted living.
- Leaving a Legacy of Love
Anne and Bill are a wonderful example of parents who prepare for the inevitable. Both are in their mid-70s, and in relatively good health, but their two children and several grandchildren live far away. They knew that when something happens to them, their children would have to journey to get there and assist. Wanting to make life easier for their kids, they decided to make sure their wishes were known.