Happiness is…in the Richness of Relationships
In this trying time, we can find meaning through our closeness to others
In the January 11 edition of the Christian Century, the magazine reviewed a few books that dealt with attempts to scientifically measure happiness.
Some interesting findings were attributed to Derek Bok's "The Politics of Happiness". He noted that despite rising incomes, the level of happiness is not keeping pace.
It seems, according to research, that, just as our parents told us, material wealth does not guarantee emotional and spiritual wealth. In looking at Bok's studies, the reviewer noted that: “People who sustain lasting marriages, contribute to charities, engage in community service, maintain close friendships and participate in organized religion are all, on average, considerably happier than those who do not."
The article goes on to note the fact that moral decency is a pretty good indicator of happiness in a human being.
I find it fascinating that people spend time doing research on what, to many, may appear to be common sense. Then again, the research is valuable for it does validate the fact that relationships and community are the vehicles through which we find meaning, purpose and thus a sense of fulfillment and happiness.
It does not make much difference if you are driving that fancy car or moving into that fantastic new home if you are alone and without a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Again, the most precious currency we have is the relationships we have with others and the love that we find as a result of those relationships; be it family or friends.
I mention this review and this reflection as we are, once again, in the midst of a trying time in our society. The events in Arizona and the resulting human reactions have reinforced the primacy of being with people and in finding richness, on so many levels, in the closeness we feel when we are with them.
This truth is why our religious communities are so vital and important to all of us. It is not theology which binds us. Rather, it is relationships, friendships and love. Many of us crafted resolutions and wishes as 2011 dawned. I would suggest that the most powerful of these should be the determination to find truth and meaning for each of us in our community and in the love of family and friends. In doing so, we become wealthy and so very wise.
Shalom.
Published January 22, 2011
