Couples Conversations: Do You Have Them?

Talk to each other!

So, how much do you know about what your spouse or partner really
wants to do when he or she finally gets to retire? I don’t mean what do you
believe or guess your significant other wants to do. That’s
too easy. I am sure you can believe or guess whatever you want, but you
may be far from the truth!

The only way to really, truly know is to have a conversation, or two or
three, about his or her wishes, hopes, and dreams. I mean really sitting
down and talking. And listening. Sounds really simple, I know. But you
would be amazed at how little this really happens. Couples generally
don’t talk and don’t listen, at least not well.

When you have been together for so many years, you can just read your love's mind, right? You know what he or she is thinking after all this time together! Who needs to talk about it?

The answer is YOU DO. So, this is your assignment. Turn off the TV. Don’t answer the phone or be on email. Talk with each other. Have a real discussion. This means one of you talks, the other listens. Then switch roles. It’s really just as simple as that, but it rarely happens. Become a rare statistic. Talk to each other!

By Kim Kirmmse Toth
Retirement with Attitude Blog