Dear Blabby and Crabby:
Once a month I have my girlfriends over to the house in the afternoon for bridge. We have a great time talking, gossiping, and just letting our hair down. The problem is that my husband has recently started refusing to leave the house and eavesdrops on some of our conversations, which has caused some of my friends to be uncomfortable. His behavior is starting to put a strain on the bridge club. What can I do? Signed: Married to a Peeping Tom
Crabby: I wish I had Tom’s telephone number. I’d call him up and invite myself over. I bet there’s some juicy stuff going on in those conversations.
Blabby: You couldn’t do that. Who ever heard of a Peeping Crabby? Besides, it’s not you we’re trying to help here, it’s Mrs. Peeping Tom.
Crabby: Tom must be finding those conversations a lot more interesting than whatever he was doing outside the house, so this one isn’t going to be easy.
Blabby: She could avoid the problem by not having the bridge club at her house, but that wouldn’t be fair to the rest of the group. I think she should have a direct confrontation with him and discuss the problem.
Crabby: And if he still won’t leave, she could always withhold sex.
Blabby: Have you ever had your counseling license revoked?
Crabby: I don’t have a license.
Blabby: I could have guessed that. She really needs to discuss this with him and convince him to leave the house for a few hours. Otherwise, there’s trouble ahead for the marriage.
Crabby: Okay. Let’s do a little role playing here. Your wife comes to you and asks you to leave the house for a few hours so she and her friends can talk about stuff they don’t want you to hear. Wouldn’t you be curious about what they want to talk about behind your back?
Blabby: No, I would honor my wife’s wishes and give her and her friends some privacy.
Crabby: Maybe she should just hide his hearing aids.
Blabby: I’m going to try and get you a license—so I can have it revoked!
By Don Griffin
Blabby and Crabby Blog
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